Sex, Prop 8 and Washington Marriage Equality: unsolicited advice

Now that I have your attention…

Seriously. Are we just a wee bit too preoccupied with “the wild thing” and politics?

Last week Washington State passed the Marriage Equality Bill. This week, Prop 8 was overturned in California. There has been some major rejoicing and some significant anxiety expressed. Hundreds of people have devoted thousands of hours advocating for these bills/propositions on all sides of the issue. Let alone the money spent in your tax dollars. Meanwhile the economy holds on by a bungee cord.

It’s not over, of course. More money, more of our lawmakers’ time, more distraction will be poured into overturning these bills and “re-changing” the law. Ain’t democracy grand?

Seriously. Have we nothing better to do with our political time? As Martin Luther King, Jr. is known to have said, “injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere.” It seems so obvious that there is no constituent that should be excluded from equal rights in under the law. So, can we just move on?

No one is being forced to approve of any marriage. Heaven knows I have had friends get married in which I thought, “REALLY? That guy is a jerk.” But, guess what? I don’t have to approve of their marriage. That’s not my job. Their life is theirs to choose. Out of respect, we can let people make these choices themselves, and trust that they will find do the best they can.

You may think, It would be so nice to be in your easily ordered world where liberals fly free and conservatives make dental appointments from excessive gnashing of their teeth. But guess what? No one has every accused me of that. Well, maybe my dad. That poor man has 4 kids who think significantly different than he.

So here is my unsolicited advice. LET IT REST. Let’s see how it all works out. Let’s see if you are invited to gay marriages. (My guess is you haven’t made many GLBTQ friends advocating against it. Just guessing.) Let’s see if the world turns into one big pillar of salt.  The more outraged and political we get about this, the more energy is stoked to support marriage equality. Plus, the more we focus on sexuality, the more distracted with it we get. Ironic, isn’t it?

And, my guess, that this is EXACTLY what all of us do NOT want. We want to take care of our children and parents; we want to contribute to society; we want to enjoy the lives we live. And if most of us were to choose, we would be happiest if our contribution was more along the lines of helping solving world hunger, or curing cancer, or creating a better life for people on the margins,  or helping create peace in a part of the world that really matters to us.

So, let’s just wait and see. And let’s instead let our lawmakers just get to work.

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One Response to Sex, Prop 8 and Washington Marriage Equality: unsolicited advice

  1. Annemarie says:

    I appreciate this take . . . thanks for the perspective. Glad to hear the bill was signed into law, but I’m discouraged that along with the news of Gregoire signing it is all the predictions about how quickly it will take to “put it to a vote.” It would be nice to just sit and bask in the goodness of it all for at least 24 hours. Grrrr.

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